Abuse, whether physical, verbal or emotional, is almost always painful and difficult to endure. The scars that result from abuse can definitely be hard to overcome especially as the victim comes face-to-face with symptoms concerning the mental, emotional and spiritual parts of self. Yet, in this article, we’ll share some tips that we pray will help you as you embark on the road to recovery.
Overcome in the Mind
Before true healing can even take place, it is important you first gain the courage to mentally change the way you think about yourself. This means that you have to choose to replace verbally abusive thoughts such as: “I am nothing”; “I can’t” or “I am worthless” with thoughts that are more positive such as “I am loved”; “I am the daughter of a King” and “I deserve better.” Repeating statements such as these will help you view yourself in a more positive light. By no means is this an instantaneous process, as it takes time to reorder thoughts in the mind. Meditating on scriptural passages such as Philippians 4:13 will also further confirm this new line of thinking.
When we look at things in light of the Word, we will be able to better understand and appreciate the divine perspective that reminds us that we can do nothing on our own. Additionally, Isaiah 40:31 states: “Those who hope in the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” (KJV) There are no limits to the heights you can reach when dependent on God as the source of your strength. That can and does most certainly apply to overcoming abuse as well as any other issue in your life.
It’s About the Relationship
The next and most crucial step in order to attain true healing is to have a relationship with God through prayer. Prayer is a powerful tool that can help us effectively address any problem we may face in life. But earnestly praying for deliverance from past hurts and abuses to live a new life in Christ takes effort. One must make it a duty to ask God for divine aid in order to experience a true change in key areas in their life.
“…it is in these times that we need to cling to our faith even more.”
Prayer is a form of communication that brings us closer to God. It is meditative and allows us to speak to God as if we were speaking to a close friend on earth. We need to pray not only when things are going well but also when life is rough. The goal of prayer life should be to do it without ceasing, as in without end.
Associated with an active prayer life is the act of faith which goes hand in hand with prayer. As we pray, we must also believe that our prayers will be answered. With this act of faith, we show God that we trust Him with our lives despite the adversities we may face, although they are never so easy.
Being a Christian does not exempt one from challenges in life. As long as we live on this earth, we will all have to endure various injustices such as abuse. Yet, we should remind ourselves that God is the ultimate victor and will reclaim what we may lose in the process. Any situation good or bad can be used to reveal to others God’s presence in our lives if we allow Him to.
In Romans 3:3, it states: “For what if some did not believe? Shall their unbelief make the faith of God without effect?” In other words, just because we do not believe does not mean that God is not faithful. We are also told in 1 Peter 1:7, that there can be deep meaning in our struggles: “That the trial of your faith being more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ.”
Trials come to make us strong and refine us into becoming better examples of what Christ wants us to become. When we have suffered abuse and various other trials, it is quite natural and even expected that we would find ourselves lamenting over such painful moments, but it is in these times that we need to cling to our faith even more. It is only then that we will receive the strength we need to carry us through the rough patches in our lives.
The Power of Testimony
Hearing the testimonies of others can also serve to be of inspiration to us. At times, we neglect to recognize how much of an impact words can have on our mind. Hearing stories of people overcoming in their own daily battles can drastically transform our own minds and lives if we allow it. In hearing such inspirational testimonies, we can be encouraged to remain strong knowing that we are not alone.
We all have a story. Now whether we choose to share this with others is a matter of choice. However, there’s no denying that stories are powerful and can prove to show that life is not linear. While abuse is very real, healing from such traumatic events is very possible. It just takes time, but we are confident you will get there.